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Author: Melissa Jansen
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Hey there….I’m back!
Where the heck have I been? I’m sorry if you felt abandoned but this Month (Breast Cancer Awareness Month) and the month before went flying by with a whole host of opportunities that I couldn’t pass up.
I was filled with dread at my one-year “CANCERversary” and the fact that “PINKtober” was rapidly hurling itself towards me. I was feeling the need to focus on making people really aware that breast cancer is not a damn pink ribbon. And by October 3rd I had whipped myself up into a frenzy and felt deflated that I wasn’t going to accomplish much and then…
I was contacted by a TON of people all asking me to help with their various projects. And it was time consuming! But here are two projects that I wholeheartedly got myself involved in because I agreed with their message.
If you didn’t know I was in a lingerie campaign for breast cancer awareness by a company called “Curvy Couture.”
Although Curvy Couture doesn’t have a line for women with mastectomies, they do happen to make undergarments for larger women and I love that they are “body positive.” They also featured me with MY FLAT SCAR SHOWING! Not once- but twice! Score for all the unis who get to be represented in a positive light. Here is my favorite photo that was on social media.
I am really glad I took the extended amount of time making sure that we are seen and that this company featured our body type. They also happen to be contributing a portion of their sales to a small non-profit that actually helps women pay for treatment if they can’t afford their bills. Hooray!
I was also featured by “She Changed It” which is a new website highlighting women who are making change in the world through experience and who have positive messages to bring to all women. You can see that article by clicking here.
Another surprise to me was I woke up one morning to find I was featured in a French article as someone to watch on social media for talking openly about my breast cancer. If you would like to see that click here.
ENOUGH ABOUT THAT – I’M BACK TO FASHION AND READY TO TALK DRESSES!
“Why do we need to talk dresses?” you ask, “It’s freezing cold out and I need sweaters!”
True. But follow me enough and you realize I am about SALES and now is the time to be purchasing dresses at a massive discount. So here are some suggestions on what kinds of dresses you may find on the sales rack to stash for next year. (And really friends, I need something to look forward to to get me through this winter!)
STRIPED DRESS FROM ANTHROPOLOGY:
Oh man did I score with this dress! I used to stay away from stripes because they can really throw the eye strait to where you don’t want people to go. However, this dress has stripes going in different directions (always distracting) but also they go in a downward curve, like a rainbow, across the chest. I have since found a sweater that has the same stripes going this way across the chest and it really works wonders for distracting from my missing breast.
I also happen to love that the top part is very flowing and all the different colors in the stripes gives it a non-pattern look. Since there is no symmetry to the pattern, there is nothing in the fabric that looks “wrong.”
This dress is from Anthropologie and I have been told that it also comes in black and white polka-dots. Although the original price was $129 (and the sale price was $69) I found it for $10!
STRIPED DRESS FROM MACYS:
I picked up this adorable dress from Macys and I LOVE IT! Every time I wear this dress I get compliments. I even got a compliment by a coworker who rarely interacts with me.
You know I am all about the ruffles because they give volume to the place where there isn’t any anymore (am I right?). I also am such a fan of the cross-over or wrap design because it has a way of giving the illusion of having breasts even when there isn’t one there. This dress has both!
I’m going to encourage you to look out for this type of design because it is a major win. This dress was on sale for only $49.
This shift dress is great for the uni body because it has the cross over design on the top that we love, but also this has a great feature that is slimming. The stripe down the front of the skirt area pulls the eyes in a down the front. This creates a slimming element that draws attention away from the hips and makes your stomach disappear.
With the cut and pattern of this dress I am really looking forward to next summer….are we there yet? I got this dress at a local store on sale for $29.
HIGH WASTED, LONG, SUMMER DRESS:
I totally scored this dress the other day on sale at Anthropologie. This dress is the reason for my choice in writing this article right NOW. I love getting a deal (or steal) at Anthro.
That being said, this dress will probably need a trip to be altered (slightly) to make sure that my flat side doesn’t gather too much making a small indentation where a breast is supposed to be. Other than that I am really happy that I got this dress on sale for $34!
LEOPARD PRINT DRESS
Lastly, if you are looking for something to wear this winter I am going to give you a little preview of a dress that I scored the other day at Forever 21 for only $25. (Click here)
I am in heaven. It has everything that makes this girl happy. Animal prints have been my thing for years (much to my daughters’ disdain) and they are a MUST this winter.
What I love is that it is an asymmetrical design and with all the print that is going on you really have no idea that I am one-breasted and if you want a good chuckle go ahead and click on my video.
This dress makes me feel sassy!
Hope you all score some amazing dresses next time you go out looking for your winter coat. When summer comes back you’ll be ready like me!
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Last night while walking the beach I came upon her bathing in the light of the sturgeon moon. She was a one – breasted mermaid. A siren. “Come closer,” she whispered, “I have something important to tell you.”
She told me she had come from the Bay of Acre where there was a $1 million reward for her capture. Afraid she would find herself hunted, she swam through the Suez Canal.
“What happened to your breast?” I asked.
She told me cancer tried to drown her in a sea of tears. She begged a silver tipped shark to remove her breast, which he did gladly. It didn’t kill her but it turned the entire sea around them red.
In an attempt to rest and recover from her wound she traveled up the Zambezi River to a reservoir in Zimbabwe. She had to leave because the locals kept coming upon her.
From there, she swam in an endless search to find others like her. She wasn’t sure but she thought she had seen a group of breastless women while relaxing off the coast of Long Island. She also heard rumors that an artist there was painting her image but she had no way to confirm it either.
Lonely and tired she came to California because she heard of someone who was spreading the word to other one-breasted woman and her message was important.
And then she looked at me with intensity that I have never felt before.
“It is you.” She said, “I have been calling and finally you are here.”
“What is the message?” I asked
“I don’t need two,” she said. “Tell them, I don’t need two breasts to be beautiful and neither do you.”
YAY!!!! It’s officially summer!
And I’m back…..
In my recent article we talked about all the benefits of wearing black. So in the natural course of things, it seems obvious we would want to now discuss our lady friend, white.
There are so many things to address here, that I don’t know where to start.
White Can Be a Friend – Or an Enemy
Most people steer away from white. Why? One big reason is because it is a pain in the ass to clean! Some have even been mistakenly told they should not wear white due to skin tone and instead go for cream. Others just don’t know how to wear it because they are worried about their undergarments showing through.
Let’s address all of these issues and, at the same time, talk about all the benefits of wearing white.
The Case for White
White can make anyone look more youthful, clean and emotionally harmonious. Did you know that white also signifies new beginnings? It’s no wonder that the last job interview I had went so well. I wore a white dress and was offered the job shortly after.
Have you ever noticed how, in all the magazines, the candid shots of celebrities tend to show them walking casually down the streets of Los Angeles, wearing just a casual pair of jeans with a crisp white T-shirt? Yet, mostly you only notice that they look so sleek. This is because they have perfected this look. They know that wearing white makes them look good and, at the same time, fabulously youthful and fresh.
It should also be noted that wearing such a simple, basic color means that you can turn one accessory into the feature of your entire outfit. Be it a pair of wild shoes, an adorable handbag, or bright and expensive earrings. Any of these items will pop with a plain outfit.
Here are some helpful tips to get you started with including white into your wardrobe:
Cream vs White
Most of us have been taught that there is a rule regarding whether you should wear white, or steer towards creams based on your skin color. I don’t agree with this. To take it a step further, I like mixing these hews. This is because most white garments eventually change color as they age.
I have several cream tops that I wear white undershirts underneath. As I have previously pointed out, this is one of my favorite fashion tips for hiding the fact that I am one breasted – it creates layers. We are always trying to find different ways of using layers that are subtle and this is one of those instances.
Dealing with Discoloration and Stains
Most people give up on wearing white because of staining – especially those not-so-sexy stains under the arms. However, spills can also make people steer clear of buying white clothing. I am going to let you in on a couple of my secrets.
I buy most of my white items at the Goodwill and other thrift stores. It’s the first section I move towards when I am at a thrift store. I know that these items are only useful for a short amount of time before they’ve had their day. Therefore, I buy them second hand and I don’t feel like it is wasted money if stains can’t be removed later on.
Speaking of Stains…
One of my biggest secrets (that is soon to not be my secret) is a product called Gonzo (and by giving you this tip I will be upset if, like several months ago, I have to wait for this product to be available because it is such an affective stain remover).
I found Gonzo when I had a cat that decided to urinate on my white sofa! Yes, heart attack does not even come close to my reaction to this nightmare scene that played out in my living room.
I traveled to the local vacuum store (yes, they still have these in some towns) and they recommended Gonzo stain remover. Ever since, I have ALWAYS had some on hand (except the one time it was unavailable). I don’t have problems with needing it for my furniture or carpets much, but I do use it all the time on my clothes.
It gets out EVERYTHING! I kid you not.
One night, my friend came over for dinner. She was wearing a beautiful white blouse that she paid a fortune for at Anthropologie. We happened to be eating spaghetti and she spilt some of the sauce down the front of her blouse. Horror filled her eyes. I jumped up. Never fear! I took her top off, treated it with some Gonzo, and she cried because it came out completely. Melissa saved the day! (But I actually didn’t, Gonzo did.)
What to Wear Under White
I am always amazed at how many women don’t know the rules on how to gracefully wear white. I also remember, “if no one knows, then no one knows.” So here’s the #1 rule so that you know (and you can pass it on):
When wearing white you are NEVER supposed to wear white undergarments (or any other “color” for that matter). When wearing white one should ALWAYS wear nude undergarments.
I actually have the same amount of nude underwear as all the rest of my colored undies put together.
Breaking All the Rules
But, when dressing a uni or flattie post mastectomy, we are breaking rules all over the place.
We don’t have to follow these rules (at least, not when it comes to tops). And since our goal is to create layering to trick the eye, we can wear white under white and get away with it. However, always wear nude underwear when wearing white pants, skirts or shorts.
As an example, here is the same shirt with three different colored camis worn underneath:
I hope these tips have helped you to think differently about wearing white. Don’t forget to invest in some white jeans this summer, as they are especially essential in today’s wardrobe. They are slimming, sleek and make for a clean, youthful look.
With my tips on white, you can go out and not worry about spills, or what is going on underneath. White makes me feel confident and I hope you can feel that way too.
Now it is officially summer you can get your white on!
Hello ladies, my apologies for being silent for a week…. Yes, a week ago I had my lady bits removed and although this blog is dedicated to the subject of fashion while being one breasted, life continues to happen and this journey is all encompassing. […]